Thursday, December 9, 2010

Giving in to Despair

I was at an organization that works with expectant mothers. Photograph after photograph of undernourished women flashed on the computer screen. One caught my eye- the woman was too well-dressed to be undernourished, yet she was.
"This is her second child", the social-worker told me. "We give her iron tonics and vitamin supplements but she never takes them."
"Why not?"
"She is scared that if she does the fetus will grow big, and there may be complications during childbirth."

In the absence of birthing centers, that is a very real fear.

At times like this, one gives in to despair.

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ladyfi said...

Such a sad tale... and quite in contrast to that lovely photo.

Mary Vaughn said...

What a vicious cycle when there is not enough of the right help. So very sad.

Danette said...

There's not even much to say about that is there... women should not have to be afraid of giving birth. But so many people in the world still do not have access to proper access to medical care... it's maddening.

Debra She Who Seeks said...


Talli Roland said...

Wow. When I read things like this, I feel reallu lucky I've been born and raised in a wealthy nation. That is indeed heatbreaking.

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

That is terrible!

Margot Kinberg said...

Rayna - How stark - how sad! It does make one want to despair. I hope it is a source of peace to you that every small thing you do, no matter how futile it seems, helps. I admire your dedication; I truly do.

LTM said...

oh, that made my eyes mist. Rayna... :o| no words~ <3

Priya Shankar said...
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Priya Shankar said...

Hey Rayna. I love this post.

Was doing a lot of work in India on maternal health, and got a glimpse of some similar situations. Things are never clear cut it seems.

Thanks for posting this!

Holly Ruggiero said...

Wow, that is frightening and very sad.

Tina said...

Frightening and sad is right, Holly. How can we help people who need the help but won't TAKE the help? I'm at a loss.

Elizabeth Spann Craig/Riley Adams said...

It really does feel so hopeless sometimes--it's hard to know how to make things better.

Clarissa Draper said...

Ugh, how sad. And yet it's like that for many women around the world.

Theres just life said...

What a sad tale. It is hard to help others if they don't let you. It is also hard to take the help if you don't know what the future brings. To bad the birthing centers can't be a priority to help out with this fear.

GutsyWriter said...

I wonder if she had problems with her first birth that scares her with her second.

Hart Johnson said...

What a horrible choice... malnourising self and baby versus a very real threat of a birth too complicated for both of you to survive...

slommler said...

Oh my! what a terrible choice she is making and it is so understandable. She must have had a horrible time with her first birth. My heart breaks for them all.
Thanks for sharing this

Dorte H said...

How sad!

Rayna M. Iyer said...

@ Fiona- it is really sad, isn't it?

@ Mary - sometimes one is tempted to give in to despair

@ Danette - no access to medical facilities- what could be worse?

@ Debra - it is, isn't it?

@ Talli - and me for taking the same for granted even in this country.

@ Alex - very

@ Margot - I do hope things start changing, however slowly.

@ Leigh- I agree. Was dumbstruck myself, and I am more in contact with stories like that.

@ Priya - left a comment on your blog- I do admire you for actually working in a village for so long

@ Holly - so very sad, isn't it?

@ Tina - absolutely. Being too scared to take help, can anything be worse?

@ Elizabeth - so true.

@ Clarissa - primary healthcare shouldn't be a privelege- it is so wrong.

@ Pamela Jo- safe birthing centres- that should be an essential, shouldn't it?

@ Sonia - her mother died at childbirth- naturally she is scared.

@ Hart - what a horrible choice to make, isn't it?

@ SueAnn- absolutely

@ Dorte - very


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