A lot of women think I have got everything right. Two kids, a full time job, a consuming hobby (running). What most people do not know is about my other passions - reading, writing and photography - and if they know I manage to make time for all of them, they would think I am some kind of superwoman.
And yet, I know I am anything but that. Like all of them, I am just one other woman juggling with multiple roles, and trying her utmost to make the best of all of them. Where, perhaps, I am more successful than many of the women I encounter in real life is in getting the balance right.
Because, after all, it is all about balance. About identifying non-essentials and ruthlessly chucking them out of your life. About identifying the things that really matter, and ensuring that they get the mindspace that they need. About knowing how much control is possible in which situation and not seeking more than that.
I have a friend who is a freelance writer, a professional dancer and a mother of two kids the same age as mine. In the last two years, she has also written four novels. She's got the balance right.
I have another friend who is obsessive about cooking and keeping a picture-perfect house. She's made her choice- she only takes up assignments that fit into the time left over from all the other tasks that mean so much to her. She's got her balance right.
And then there are women who can't seem to decide what really matters to them. They want meaningful careers, but are not willing to make the sacrifices they need to make in order to have them. They have issues with reporting to people 'younger than them', choosing to forget that they took career breaks that make them effectively junior to the people 'younger than them.'
When it is so obvious that life is about prioritising what matters and balancing them properly, why do so many people struggle with grasping it? Or is there a different way - one that I have missed seeing.