tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5041251042986195891.post3856705716758797091..comments2023-11-03T17:56:12.796+05:30Comments on Coffee Rings Everywhere: Abusing the trust?Natashahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00481081735923606868noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5041251042986195891.post-5190368832464821702010-09-17T08:45:34.358+05:302010-09-17T08:45:34.358+05:30@ Patricia - maybe the kissing was a part of the t...@ Patricia - maybe the kissing was a part of the tormenting? The boy concerned is a bit of a bully, and I am not sure it was pure innocent (puppy) love that motivated him.Natashahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00481081735923606868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5041251042986195891.post-7806028353828735822010-09-17T04:56:21.349+05:302010-09-17T04:56:21.349+05:30What an interesting dilemma. 2nd grade boys in the...What an interesting dilemma. 2nd grade boys in the U.S. are probably more interested in tormenting girls than kissing them. Sounds like a pretty precocious pair. I suspect the teacher, if she's any good at her job, is already aware.<br /><br /><a href="http://patriciastoltey.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Patricia</a>Patricia Stolteyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17192369425956406122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5041251042986195891.post-5461553594454875652010-09-14T19:02:55.176+05:302010-09-14T19:02:55.176+05:30@ Tami - we cross posted. I was a late bloomer, so...@ Tami - we cross posted. I was a late bloomer, so I guess I tend to see things from my viewpoint. If it is playground fun, I guess it is okay, but I am going to keep my finger on the pulse for a bit. Don't want to take chances with my kid, or someone else's.Natashahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00481081735923606868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5041251042986195891.post-28161432679498722412010-09-14T19:00:26.644+05:302010-09-14T19:00:26.644+05:30@ Leigh- I could tell the mother, but something te...@ Leigh- I could tell the mother, but something tells me she will only think I am over-reacting. Puppy love it may be, but isn't seven a little too young even for that?<br /><br />@ Alex- you should have taken the initiative, the way Bharat did.<br /><br />@ Trudy- it is a tough one, isn't it? Thanks!<br /><br />@ Jules- dogs are easier than boys, I am sure!<br />The teasing bit I can understand- they are at a stage when they deny the existence of the other sex.<br /><br />@ Tina- according to the kid, it was during the recess. And I too think seven is way too young. And the other thing you bring up may well be true too- the kid does come from a slightly dysfunctional family. Maybe I should take it more seriously than before.<br />Thank you.<br /><br />@ Roland- you give very good advice. Yes, the trust my kid placed in me is really important to me, and I don't want to jeopardise it. Thank you.<br /><br />@ Fiona - my younger one had a girlfriend when he was a month short of his third birthday, and that was a game. I do hope this is too. But then your daughter would know.Natashahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00481081735923606868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5041251042986195891.post-14530363683248261722010-09-14T18:53:42.448+05:302010-09-14T18:53:42.448+05:30Natasha-Oh this is such a sweet little problem. I...Natasha-Oh this is such a sweet little problem. I think, unless your son sounds like either party is DISTRESSED, that the teacher doesn't need to know. The trust is more important, unless one of the kids is feeling cornered or picked upon. I suspect though, with the assessment "she loves him too" that it is normal playground stuff and getting the school involved makes a lot more of it than it is.Hart Johnsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17599570189253229318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5041251042986195891.post-44551461841963045112010-09-14T09:01:03.157+05:302010-09-14T09:01:03.157+05:30Elegant - but I don't see it as a problem. My ...Elegant - but I don't see it as a problem. My daughter assures me that most people in the second grade have a girl/boyfriend, but as they are only 8 yrs old, it's more like a game than anything to worry about.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5041251042986195891.post-31448352278681981372010-09-14T00:29:20.370+05:302010-09-14T00:29:20.370+05:30My mother was half-Lakota (the guys in warpaint wh...My mother was half-Lakota (the guys in warpaint who won at the Little Big Horn) and half-Irish.<br /><br />To her family was everything. Family, sadly, being just me and her. <br /><br />I knew I could trust her with anything. It was a security that meant more than words can convey to know I could trust her with any secret, any fear, and it would be safe from listening ears. <br /><br />Protect you child's faith and trust in you. Puppy love is real to the puppy. But it is also short-lived. Patience will see the situation through safely for everyone involved. Keep your fingers on the pulse of the situation and observe through the eyes of your child.<br /><br />If things get out of hand, it will be noticed at school without you having to shatter your child's trust. RolandRoland D. Yeomanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00338410857990551352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5041251042986195891.post-55873953606057733502010-09-13T23:10:01.741+05:302010-09-13T23:10:01.741+05:30You've gotten some good advice here, I agree. ...You've gotten some good advice here, I agree. As a former teacher, my first question is, "Where is the teacher when this kissing is happening? Shouldn't they be in her sight at all times? Secondly, it's way too young to be kissing...harmless puppy love or not. As to the teasing, that's another issue. Teased kids react in different ways, depending on how they perceive it. Some teasing is fun, attention, etc. Cruel teasing leaves scars that sometimes don't ever heal. And just one more slightly scary thing to say, and then I'll stop. I've worked with children who've been sexually abused, and their behavior includes age-inappropriate sexual contact. Not accusing anyone of anything...but since that IS a possibility, however remote, sadly, it's another reason the teacher needs to know. But in all of this, the trust your son has placed in you is of utmost importance. What Margot said about how to get him to agree is very good.Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08925730745204736744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5041251042986195891.post-417844343234378362010-09-13T22:47:30.006+05:302010-09-13T22:47:30.006+05:30Well Alex, no boy me kissed me either :)
Sorry Ra...Well Alex, no boy me kissed me either :)<br /><br />Sorry Rayna my dogs either like you or they don't. They are SO much easier than children.<br /><br />I'd be concerned with the teasing though.<br /><br />Good luck, my friend<br /><a href="http://fragilemouse.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Jules @ Trying To Get Over The Rainbow</a>Juleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02136045025997662057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5041251042986195891.post-29179222833234306202010-09-13T22:21:40.772+05:302010-09-13T22:21:40.772+05:30My, that is a tough one for sure. It does look lik...My, that is a tough one for sure. It does look like you've received some excellent advice though.<br /><br />I hope it all works out well in the end for you!<br /><br />God's blessings!<br />TrudyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12033873209155596679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5041251042986195891.post-67800819269613467442010-09-13T21:36:35.203+05:302010-09-13T21:36:35.203+05:30Not fair - no girl ever kissed me in second grade!...Not fair - no girl ever kissed me in second grade!Alex J. Cavanaughhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09770065693345181702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5041251042986195891.post-86536469206276168192010-09-13T21:28:13.341+05:302010-09-13T21:28:13.341+05:30Awww!!! that is so sweet! :o)
BUT! I know. My bab...Awww!!! that is so sweet! :o)<br /><br />BUT! I know. My babies are this age, and they are NOT supposed to be kissing OR falling in love... I'm friends w/most of the moms in our age group and we always tell each other when little romances like this appear. Can you do that & keep it secret btw the moms? <br /><br />I'm sure it's just sweet little puppy love~ :o)LTMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05239077455322030275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5041251042986195891.post-81700305051792305642010-09-13T20:07:25.494+05:302010-09-13T20:07:25.494+05:30@ Jan- you would be surprised how much (and how li...@ Jan- you would be surprised how much (and how little) those kids know about such things. And they love whispering about such things.<br /><br />@ Clarissa- it is tough, isn't it?<br /><br />@ Karen- I guess that is what I should do. Why is parenting so difficult?<br /><br />@ Margot- thank you so much. That is exactly the right way to proceed. A couple of days delay would not matter, but it makes sense to get him to understand why it is important for the teacher to know.<br /><br />@ Diane- maybe I am over-reacting a bit, but I do think the teacher should know what direction her kids' thoughts go.Natashahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00481081735923606868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5041251042986195891.post-63371475716509539572010-09-13T19:59:34.171+05:302010-09-13T19:59:34.171+05:30I guess because I'm not a parent, I wouldn'...I guess because I'm not a parent, I wouldn't be inclined to say anything.L. Diane Wolfehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06425864276166334896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5041251042986195891.post-70057416648169113542010-09-13T19:53:00.706+05:302010-09-13T19:53:00.706+05:30Rayna - What an elegant way to bring up such a dif...Rayna - What an elegant way to bring up such a difficult challenge. My first instinct is to do whatever it takes to ensure that your son continues to trust him. If I were in that situation, I don't know exactly what I would do. But I would like to think that I would start by promising not tell the teacher behind his back, so to speak. But then, I would ask more questions about the kiss, and if you believe that one or both children has acted inappropriately, I would explain that the teacher needs to know because both children need to be kept safe, just as the teacher would need to know if a window was broken, a student was very sick, or something else urgent. I would like to think I'd work hard to make my son understand the importance of telling the teacher (if it is necessary), and wait until you get his agreement, however reluctant. It might take a bit more time, but hopefully, you could alert the teacher while still showing your son that you will not tell his confidences behind his back.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5041251042986195891.post-43892977510122594902010-09-13T19:37:56.926+05:302010-09-13T19:37:56.926+05:30Yeah, I don't know what to do in this situatio...Yeah, I don't know what to do in this situation. It's hard.<br /><br />CDAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12160669603997465454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5041251042986195891.post-84886427979130929512010-09-13T19:14:07.338+05:302010-09-13T19:14:07.338+05:30hmmm...I want to know more! Why should the teacher...hmmm...I want to know more! Why should the teacher know, for instance? And why do Muskan's friends tease her about Bharat?<br />tantalizing. And all in the 2nd grade. wow!<br /><a href="http://www.labanan.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Jan Morrison</a>Jan Morrisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01771180344305042855noreply@blogger.com